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Say your piece
I was refereeing a Jiu Jitsu tournament yesterday and noticed one group of competitors grouped together. They would look at me and then huddle together like hens eating corn, look at me and then go back to grazing. I looked over to the head chicken and asked if he had something to say. His answer "no, not a thing", but as is so common, as soon as I backed away he goes back to his friends and starts talking again. When the tournament was over I confronted the head chicken again. After pushing him(not literally) into saying what he wanted to say, he felt my reffing was biased towards his team. Now, at any time he could have SAID HIS PIECE and maybe I would have taken his opinion into account in my officiating.
Now, I understand that tact needs to be used in certain situations, but I don't understand just not being open and saying how they feel and especially if they have an issue. This has been my way and although it may rub people the wrong way, at least you know where you stand with me. There is no backwards talk, there is no need to question if I like you, have a problem with you, have a problem period. You will know.
Im really confused why people cant just say their piece. Say whats on your mind, get it out there. I realize that yesterdays situation was mild in comparison to other situations, but it really had me thinking about it. Why cant we(as in people) just say whats on our mind. Im not saying going out and just saying whatever first comes to mind(I would probably be arrested if that were the case) but if you have a problem with someone or an issue, just get it out. SAY YOUR PIECE.
Now, I understand that tact needs to be used in certain situations, but I don't understand just not being open and saying how they feel and especially if they have an issue. This has been my way and although it may rub people the wrong way, at least you know where you stand with me. There is no backwards talk, there is no need to question if I like you, have a problem with you, have a problem period. You will know.
Im really confused why people cant just say their piece. Say whats on your mind, get it out there. I realize that yesterdays situation was mild in comparison to other situations, but it really had me thinking about it. Why cant we(as in people) just say whats on our mind. Im not saying going out and just saying whatever first comes to mind(I would probably be arrested if that were the case) but if you have a problem with someone or an issue, just get it out. SAY YOUR PIECE.
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Comment by Greg Richey on March 9, 2010 at 12:24pm - Ruediger...Evil, You're both right. I'm working on it.
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Comment by Gabe Ruediger on March 6, 2010 at 4:09pm
- Greg, Ive found that people will know they cant get away with as much with you if your blunt. Its not about confrontation.
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Comment by Gabe Ruediger on March 6, 2010 at 4:08pm
- Good on ya Evilsorta!
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Comment by Evilosrta on March 3, 2010 at 10:19pm
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hell i've gone through my entire life saying my piece.....
sure it's easy to get yourself into a situation because you've said your piece, but for the most part....
it's always worked well for me, i've been/and am respected by people alot higher up the 'status' & 'relevance' ladder because of it. But then again i also learnt it's not only about saying your piece but owning that shit and have it be more than just off the top of your head ramblings.
and i'm super awesome.
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Comment by Greg Richey on March 2, 2010 at 9:18pm
- That's good you did. I'm always too non-confrontational (conflict avoider) to say my mind...I need to work on that a bit.
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